After years and years of hellish torture I begin a new chapter of my life. People do not change, hence why growth is usually apart and not together. Reguardless of all the pain I have been through, I am a stronger and wiser woman because of it. I am grateful for that and my girls alone. So now that I have a bright and meaningful future to look toward and a new strength in myself found, I am determined to make the rest of my life count. I will enjoy every minute I can with my girls. I will savor the fun and happy times yet take the frustrating and difficult moments with ease, afterall parenting is meant to be a roller coaster otherwise the highest highs and the lowest lows wouldnt be as thrilling.
My three girls have all done something to surprise me this week. They can always make me chuckle even when I least expect it.
Earlier in the week I was mowing the lawn. I had to wait for the older girls to get home from school to help with the baby so I ended up mowing at 3pm in 90 degree heat. Not all that easy, but it had to be done. I was not going to have another jungle situation that would take me 3 days to completely finish my postage sized lawn :(. I had a good pace going and Dorothy had come out with me to check on her garden. I stopped the mower to look with her and asked "Can you please pull the weeds from the garden?" "I don't think so Mommy..." she said. "Um.....why not?" She responded "Well you told me I am supposed to stay away from drugs." I couldn't think of anything to say, I just laughed quietly and shook my head, started the mower, and continued my job. Kids, I swear sometimes.
Taryn (the baby) has been working very very hard to crawl. I think her new nickname should be "Frog" for the following reason. She manages to get up on her hands and knees (and I am very proud of her for that) and begins rocking a bit back and forth and all of the sudden attempts to leap forward. It's so cute and funny at the same time. Instead of propelling herself forward, she ends up slipping backward when her legs shoot out from underneath her ;).
Today, Dorothy was complaining about how much her loose tooth hurts. "I don't like how it feels Mommy." she says. "I'm sorry sweetie but it is part of growing up. You need to make room for your adult teeth. It will be over before you know it. " I respond. "Dor Dor DOR! Besides it's worth it!!! You get MONEY!" Addison chimes in. Once again a conversation ended in laughing, I couldn't help myself, but I see where Addison's priorities lie. LOL.
Sometimes I wonder if I am doing things right; if I am a good enough parent..... These moments are what help me to be sure that I am.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Thursday, March 10, 2011
"Mommy? What's a "sugar momma"?"
Yeah, that was the question that came out of my 5 year olds' mouth last night while sitting around with a bunch of Army men having their last steak dinners for a while. Men in the military have no brain mouth filter (at least in my experience) and I have very little problem with that. It ended with the gentleman (a major) telling her to "never be one, find a man who takes care of you" and a bunch of chuckles. A humbling evening with 7 men leaving for Iraq later that night, but another lasting memory from Dorothy, my sweet middle daughter.
You would have never known that Dorothy was destined to be the well-adjusted, sweet, caring, and laid-back middle child that she has become. She most often is the one to make me smile and laugh. She is light-hearted, confident, and carefree, but she wasn't always. Dorothy was the "monster". She had colic for 6 months straight, hated any change in her life or schedule, and would cry instantly if she was not held or fed constantly. She has definitely done a complete 180 in both attitude and appearance (going from brown hair and grey/blue eyes at birth to blond and most gorgeous green eyes I have ever seen).
As sweet and "innocent" as she is (most of the time) Dorothy definitely has a devilish side. She is a bit of a goofball and quirky. She comes up with jokes and comments from out of nowhere and has an insight that sometimes blows every ones minds. One example is we were packing up food after the "Blessing of the Bikes" we had been invited to by family. As a rule we needed to date the containers and write what was in them. I had found a sharpie and began searching for masking tape, but couldn't find any. Dorothy walks in and sees the containers filled up and sees me looking in drawers and such. "Mommy what are you doing?" "I'm looking for masking tape to label the containers sweetie." "Oh, well they are disposable containers, why not just right on them?" And she walks away. Four adults and about 6 teenagers had not thought of that in the 20 minutes we were looking for tape. Wow. Hehe, but my favorite story to tell is when she was 3. A big fan of Disney movies we watch all the classic and new animated movies. One of my favorites is "Aladdin" and it seemed to be the movie of the month with the girls watching it over and over again. We were out one day and needed to stop and get fuel in the van. I drive up to the pump and Dorothy gets all excited yelling "Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!" I ask "What is it Dor?" and as the gentleman walks over to pump our gas she yells "A GENIE is going to pump our gas!" I burst out laughing, it was hilarious. Yes the gentleman was Indian from India, a VERY common occurrence in New Jersey and I assume many other states as well and I am sure some people may consider the comment insensitive, but the funniest thing about it was the simple fact that she had NO idea of the implications of her statement, it was just innocent excitement.
Kids say what they think (obviously they have some things in common with Army guys hehe) and usually what they have to say is freakin hilarious. I love you Dorothy!
You would have never known that Dorothy was destined to be the well-adjusted, sweet, caring, and laid-back middle child that she has become. She most often is the one to make me smile and laugh. She is light-hearted, confident, and carefree, but she wasn't always. Dorothy was the "monster". She had colic for 6 months straight, hated any change in her life or schedule, and would cry instantly if she was not held or fed constantly. She has definitely done a complete 180 in both attitude and appearance (going from brown hair and grey/blue eyes at birth to blond and most gorgeous green eyes I have ever seen).
As sweet and "innocent" as she is (most of the time) Dorothy definitely has a devilish side. She is a bit of a goofball and quirky. She comes up with jokes and comments from out of nowhere and has an insight that sometimes blows every ones minds. One example is we were packing up food after the "Blessing of the Bikes" we had been invited to by family. As a rule we needed to date the containers and write what was in them. I had found a sharpie and began searching for masking tape, but couldn't find any. Dorothy walks in and sees the containers filled up and sees me looking in drawers and such. "Mommy what are you doing?" "I'm looking for masking tape to label the containers sweetie." "Oh, well they are disposable containers, why not just right on them?" And she walks away. Four adults and about 6 teenagers had not thought of that in the 20 minutes we were looking for tape. Wow. Hehe, but my favorite story to tell is when she was 3. A big fan of Disney movies we watch all the classic and new animated movies. One of my favorites is "Aladdin" and it seemed to be the movie of the month with the girls watching it over and over again. We were out one day and needed to stop and get fuel in the van. I drive up to the pump and Dorothy gets all excited yelling "Mommy! Mommy! Mommy!" I ask "What is it Dor?" and as the gentleman walks over to pump our gas she yells "A GENIE is going to pump our gas!" I burst out laughing, it was hilarious. Yes the gentleman was Indian from India, a VERY common occurrence in New Jersey and I assume many other states as well and I am sure some people may consider the comment insensitive, but the funniest thing about it was the simple fact that she had NO idea of the implications of her statement, it was just innocent excitement.
Kids say what they think (obviously they have some things in common with Army guys hehe) and usually what they have to say is freakin hilarious. I love you Dorothy!
Monday, February 21, 2011
I feel I must blog...
I have been quite busy over the past few weeks with children and such and feel like I must blog. This random debate popped into my head several weeks ago and I never got a chance to put it out there. I would love opinions, feel free to divulge.
Men sex vs. Women sex - Why is it that women are considered sluts or whores if they are very sexual beings but men are not??? This question has plagued me for years. I always thought there was something wrong with me and my chemistry...goddamn it I was/am horny all the time and want sex every day (or at least to cum). In high school I was nicknamed (behind my back of course and didn't know it until recently) the "Chubby Sex Guru". For a very very long time I thought it was me, but as it turns out it isn't me. I am perfectly healthy and being with a man (or woman) who is not as sexually charged as you can be a big hiccup in a relationship as a whole.
That is it...let's hear what you all have to say.
Men sex vs. Women sex - Why is it that women are considered sluts or whores if they are very sexual beings but men are not??? This question has plagued me for years. I always thought there was something wrong with me and my chemistry...goddamn it I was/am horny all the time and want sex every day (or at least to cum). In high school I was nicknamed (behind my back of course and didn't know it until recently) the "Chubby Sex Guru". For a very very long time I thought it was me, but as it turns out it isn't me. I am perfectly healthy and being with a man (or woman) who is not as sexually charged as you can be a big hiccup in a relationship as a whole.
That is it...let's hear what you all have to say.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Pass me the bag of potato chips, my fat kid is a vegetarian!
One of the dilemas of raising children is what to put into their mouths to make them healthy strong individual adults. With childhood obesity, juvenille diabetes, and overall obesity on the rise, some parents have turned to the whole vegetarian lifestyle in an attempt to prevent any of the forementioned issues. I find this to be a grave (and possibly fatal) mistake. Many parents (and even adults without kids) turn to vegetarianism as a means to diet and gain a healthier lifestyle, however they are often misguided and make such a change hastily with little or no research and doom themselves to a plethora of unhealthy fatty calorie loaded food guarenteed to pack on the pounds NOT shed them.
Without lean meats, children have the options of dairy (if they have not taken the vegan route which allows NO animal products what-so-ever) eggs, and legumes as their protien sources. Sure you can receive partial proteins from these sources, however they do not provide complete proteins which our bodies need to make essential amino acids needed for brain, eye, bone, and overall body health (children need all of these things to grow, I have a significant example of this for later). If our bodies are craving certain proteins we are more likely to over-eat in an attempt to supplement them by snacking. Bags of potato chips, mounds of cheese, full fat yogurt products, and bottles of soda ARE NOT healthy alternatives to lean meat. Eating tons of these foods certainly will not help with dieting or healthy eating. It is much better for everyone involved to actually have a HEALTHY lifestyle. Watch foods with saturated fat or high percentages of fat, get a balanced meal (with protein, veggies, and some carbs) three times a day with healthy snacks in between, make sure to get at least 30 - 60 minutes of exercise daily, and monitor sweets, sodas, and juice drinks while drinking PLENTY of water. MOST importantly make sure your child is getting the correct foods and calorie amounts correct for him or her as based on the food pyramid and their age. http://www.mypyramid.gov/
Now granted I understand MANY of the vegans and vegetarians in the world follow such practice due to their religion and I have no problem with that. I do however have a serious issue with people who put their childrens lives in danger because of ignorance. Case in point, a baby boy died in May of 2004 after his parents fed him soy milk and apple juice and that was about all.. The baby was 6 weeks old and weighed only 3 1/2 pounds when he died of starvation. You can look it up on google, just type in "baby death vegans". The parents were found guilty of several counts and sentenced to life in prison in 2007. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18574603/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/
Just because you do it for yourself, it doesn't mean you should do it for your children.
Without lean meats, children have the options of dairy (if they have not taken the vegan route which allows NO animal products what-so-ever) eggs, and legumes as their protien sources. Sure you can receive partial proteins from these sources, however they do not provide complete proteins which our bodies need to make essential amino acids needed for brain, eye, bone, and overall body health (children need all of these things to grow, I have a significant example of this for later). If our bodies are craving certain proteins we are more likely to over-eat in an attempt to supplement them by snacking. Bags of potato chips, mounds of cheese, full fat yogurt products, and bottles of soda ARE NOT healthy alternatives to lean meat. Eating tons of these foods certainly will not help with dieting or healthy eating. It is much better for everyone involved to actually have a HEALTHY lifestyle. Watch foods with saturated fat or high percentages of fat, get a balanced meal (with protein, veggies, and some carbs) three times a day with healthy snacks in between, make sure to get at least 30 - 60 minutes of exercise daily, and monitor sweets, sodas, and juice drinks while drinking PLENTY of water. MOST importantly make sure your child is getting the correct foods and calorie amounts correct for him or her as based on the food pyramid and their age. http://www.mypyramid.gov/
Now granted I understand MANY of the vegans and vegetarians in the world follow such practice due to their religion and I have no problem with that. I do however have a serious issue with people who put their childrens lives in danger because of ignorance. Case in point, a baby boy died in May of 2004 after his parents fed him soy milk and apple juice and that was about all.. The baby was 6 weeks old and weighed only 3 1/2 pounds when he died of starvation. You can look it up on google, just type in "baby death vegans". The parents were found guilty of several counts and sentenced to life in prison in 2007. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/18574603/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/
Just because you do it for yourself, it doesn't mean you should do it for your children.
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
Mommy's best stress relief...NOT a day at the spa!
I am talking about ORGASMS. A bit scary for new moms and even repeat moms, sometimes females in general are terrified of the big "O", but I can assure you there is NOTHING wrong with a healthy sexual appetite. Orgasms are an important part of life. We wouldn't create new human lives if it didn't feel good right? So why do so many women have such a hard time enjoying themselves in the bedroom reguardless of being with a partner or without? Orgasms release endorphins and hormones that give the human body a calm sense of euphoria and relaxation hence STRESS RELIEF. Not a bad thing in my opinion.
I am not neccessarily speaking of sex. Sex although fun, enjoyable, and intimate with your partner (or partners if you are not a one man/woman being) is WORK. It takes time and effort to plan the encounter, and many mommys (and daddys) just dont have the luxury of either (especially with a teething 6 month old). Instead, I suggest a healthy collection of adult toys. Toys that range from simple bullets to elaborate rabbit vibrators can be valuable tools for a quick and relaxing fix. Yes I said fix...a rush of endorphins surging through your system can relax all of your muscles in a few seconds, something definitly worth doing at the end of a busy day. It also only takes a few min with very little planning. Frankly I know numerous men who jerk off every night to help themselves get to sleep. It has NOTHING to do with their partners, intimacy, or the porn they might be watching, it is simply a stress reliever so they can get a good nights rest and if it helps me too I am going to do it.
So why not learn to explore your own body and learn what turns you on and what feels good? It will help you as a parent and as a partner.
I am not neccessarily speaking of sex. Sex although fun, enjoyable, and intimate with your partner (or partners if you are not a one man/woman being) is WORK. It takes time and effort to plan the encounter, and many mommys (and daddys) just dont have the luxury of either (especially with a teething 6 month old). Instead, I suggest a healthy collection of adult toys. Toys that range from simple bullets to elaborate rabbit vibrators can be valuable tools for a quick and relaxing fix. Yes I said fix...a rush of endorphins surging through your system can relax all of your muscles in a few seconds, something definitly worth doing at the end of a busy day. It also only takes a few min with very little planning. Frankly I know numerous men who jerk off every night to help themselves get to sleep. It has NOTHING to do with their partners, intimacy, or the porn they might be watching, it is simply a stress reliever so they can get a good nights rest and if it helps me too I am going to do it.
So why not learn to explore your own body and learn what turns you on and what feels good? It will help you as a parent and as a partner.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Welcome to Blogging...I just sold my soul...
I admit I am not the most computer savvy person in the world. Thankfully technology has made it so idiot proof that an 80 year old grandpa from back-woods Montana can post a blog. Well I am not an 80 year old grandpa nor an idiot so that, right off the bat, means I am off to a slow start ;-).
Anyway to introduce myself I am Momma Moose. I am a busy, often opinionated, somewhat soft spoken (keep in mind I said somewhat) mother of 3 who is frankly, not your typical "mommy". I am myself, me, and if you don't like what I have to say, don't listen.
So many attitudes and stereotypes exsist on motherhood, sexuality, child rearing, etc etc and it's time to change some of them. I am a young mother, but that doesn't automatically make me a bad mother. Nor does it mean that I must throw fun, sex, and drinking out the window. It also doesn't mean that I must become obsessed with raising my children with the 3R's (right, religious, reserved) as society has often pushed. I am not a perfect parent (and if you think you are you must be doing something wrong). I am still learning from my mistakes and continue to grow as a mother every day.
I hope this intrigues and enlightens some people to read and respond to this blog...I look forward to posting in the future.
Anyway to introduce myself I am Momma Moose. I am a busy, often opinionated, somewhat soft spoken (keep in mind I said somewhat) mother of 3 who is frankly, not your typical "mommy". I am myself, me, and if you don't like what I have to say, don't listen.
So many attitudes and stereotypes exsist on motherhood, sexuality, child rearing, etc etc and it's time to change some of them. I am a young mother, but that doesn't automatically make me a bad mother. Nor does it mean that I must throw fun, sex, and drinking out the window. It also doesn't mean that I must become obsessed with raising my children with the 3R's (right, religious, reserved) as society has often pushed. I am not a perfect parent (and if you think you are you must be doing something wrong). I am still learning from my mistakes and continue to grow as a mother every day.
I hope this intrigues and enlightens some people to read and respond to this blog...I look forward to posting in the future.
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